These four words up until now have been my life’s mantra. I’m chilled relaxed and I go with the flow. I have said this so many times and about so many things.
But what is going with the flow.
Going with the flow is nice and it’s easy. It’s lazy. Your not making any of your own life decisions. You are passively letting your life go by, reacting to it only when it needs to be reacted to.
It’s true that sometimes things happen in your life that you are unable to control and your only option is to go with the flow. But where has going with the flow really ever gotten anyone?
Did Richard Branson simply go with the flow when his flight got cancelled? No he commanded something different from his life, chartered a plane, charged other stranded passengers airfair and got where he was going and a whole new business venture appeared from it.
If you aren’t in love with what you do but you also don’t hate it, you just coast and go with the flow… Only to find out in 5/10/15/20 years time that you could and SHOULD have been doing something more worthwhile. Something of value. Maybe not physical value, but something that brings value into YOUR life. After all your the one that is living it.
Command more value from your life. Stop simply going with the flow!
Does stuff make us happy?
Are 10 dresses hung up in the wardrobe better than just the 2 you actually wear? Bottles and bottles of moisturiser, shower gels, shampoos, conditioners and face wash, when a bar of soap Would do?
When you have a couple of hours to kill so you go shopping, feeling a bit blue? Shopping? New job? New outfit! Single? New outfits!!
What has happened to buying once and buying right?
We have become such a throw away society and it’s killing the planet!
We buy so much crap. Let alone the single use plastics we use. We buy into fast fashion, buy an outfit for when we lose weight (we never do) or in a colour we really should wear (but never do). We buy air fresheners that pollute our homes, cleaning products which poison us and eat food that are killing us.
No more!! Not in my house!
This is one of the first poems that i ever heard and i instantly fell in love.
I never saw a wild thing
sorry for itself.
a small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself
– DH Lwarence
Photo credit: starmerallengentleman instagram
Being 22 weekend pregnant my husband and I decided we would take the opportunity to go on a baby-moon which is essentially a holiday whilst pregnant to just be a happy couple and have a bit of us time.
When me and Andrew first got together we went to Venice for our first holiday and it was great although we stayed in a hostel so wasn’t as romantic as it could have been so we decided to go again but this time stay in a hotel. It was much better. We stayed for 4 days 3 nights and really enjoyed it
Before we set off I made sure the travel insurance we purchased covered us should something happen involving my pregnancy and photocopied my pregnancy notes. I even bought flight socks which as I’ve never used any before I can say they are actually surprisingly comfy and my legs didn’t feel quite as “heavy”.
Whilst away I had growing pains once a day for about half an hour and Henry had a growth spurt or more accurately I did. I woke up the day after getting there and my stomach seemed to have sprung out of nowhere but apparently that’s a thing that happens…. Something else which provided entertainment is it was whilst away on this romantic getaway my breasts decided to start leaking clear fluid… Why is pregnancy so God damn sexy!
Packing was a bit hit and miss I wish I had brought lip balm and a different moisturiser for my stomach. It was that cold being January and all, I didn’t wear any of the nice clothes I packed and ended up wearing as many layers as possible and my coat the entire time!
Andrew was really patient with me which was amazing he didn’t rush me and constantly reminded me to go and pee before we left anywhere. Was always there to rub my back when Henry decided to push or pull or whatever it is he has been doing on the inside. So all in all it has been an amazing and very enjoyable trip. I just need a holiday now to recover from this holiday ha ha 😂
Dry skin: I suffer from psoriasis on my hands, feet and scalp. Whenever I’m particularly stressed out the stuff on my scalp comes down slightly and goes onto my forehead but never further down than my eyebrows. Luckily I have a fringe so if it gets bad I just wear my fringe down and it’s hidden… Sorted. Being pregnant has had a very strange effect on my skin as the psoriasis I have on my hands and feet has completely cleared up and the stuff which is only very occasionally on my forehead was taking centre stage. I was caught in a tight place… The more stuff I put on my skin to help with the skin condition the worse it seemed to get, which is pretty standard really but still annoying as you can imagine. Once I got into the second half of the second trimester it seemed to clear up so fingers crossed it will stay away for a while.
Hair: My hair feels amazing! This is definitely a great side effect of pregnancy it’s growing like crazy and feels really thick (although I know it will all come out once baby is here). I cant put conditioner on it or it will get greasy in what feels like 2 seconds flat but oh well not exactly a bad thing! Will save me loads of money between now and the little critters arrival!
Nails: Also growing like crazy although they do seem a little brittle but that could be my imagination. With work all day I really am surprised that they last at all!
Bath bombs: Unfortunately I have had to put my bath bomb obsession to bed, at least until May. They have caused a brief encounter with a PH Imbalance that I sure as hell don’t want a repeat of! The doctor said now I’m pregnant I am more likely to get this sort of thing and if I’ve one once I’ll probably get another! 😱
Tummy: On my expanding stomach I have been applying The body shops Coconut body butter, Palmer’s cocoa butter and boots mummy oil spray for stretch marks. I love the smell and consistency of the body butter it’s definitely the one I have been applying the most, I find the cocoa butter too sweet smelling and the oil spray feels disgusting on my skin…
This is a very late post about my slimming world experience.
All I can say is that it really is such a great system in 6 months I managed to lose 2 stone. Got into a size 12 with room in my pants to spare… Amazing.
At no point did I feel deprived. If i wanted something I had it. It made the decisions to have unhealthy food easier, if I decided to have a chocolate bar I would choose which ever food gave me the most value for my syns. If I could have a certain chocolate bar for a 5 syns and another type for 10 syns I’d have 2 of the lower syn bar…
The thing that slimming world really did for me was to highlight the amount of empty calories I was having in drinks. Latte’s from Starbucks, fruit juices etc… There are many different options to lower your intake of syns and it was a case of just figuring out what was what and I didn’t have to calorie count.
I loved it!
Once I’ve had my baby I’m getting straight back on it hoping to get down to my 11 stone goal! As I have already managed to go up a stone but i am 6 months in so pretty good going really!
It also kick started my exercise regime which is pretty standard I guess, healthy eating and exercise come hand in hand, my husband and I went walking, running, even walked up and down 16 flights of stairs multiple times! That definitely got the heart rate up!!
Hey guys so this is a follow up to yesterday’s post this is the in depth and a bit more details of what we actually got up to in chilly Norway.
The day of our departure had arrived and we were getting ready to head out on the cold January morning to go on our long overdue adventure. As we live In the city centre of Manchester and typically our flights leaving from Liverpool we got on a Terravision coach service to Liverpool Airport, It was a direct bus from Shudehill coach station straight to the front of the airport. We got a really good deal it was £20 return ticket for both of us so £5 each, each way not bad, took just under an hour to get there I total! 😘
As it was all depending on traffic we made sure we got to the airport as early as possible so we had enough time to check in and have a Frankie and Benny’s breakfast before boarding our Ryanair flight to Oslo TORP Sandefjord airport. This has got to have been the bumpiest flight I have ever been on. The turbulence was incredible!
Unfortunately it was a rather dull and cloudy day getting into Oslo but there was patches of snow on the ground so we were happy enough. Getting onto the coach from Sandefjord to actual Oslo took about 2 hours as in true Ryanair style you pay to get flown no where near where you’re going, but I can’t complain as the return flights for BOTH of us was only £55 so hey what’s a 2 hour bus ride ha!
Once we got into Oslo main bus station it was a short 15 minute walk to the hotel. HTL Grenson, it is a beautifully modern building with a full glass front, facing a few fancy shops that appear to be a bit like our Debenhams. We went into the hotel and checked in with the help of the gorgeous blonde receptionist and off to our room we went. A few floors up in the lift and our room was right opposite no mazes for us! The room was really nice with a massive bed a wet room kind of shower thing which was amazing a floor to ceiling window on one wall facing the main Street!
We walked through Oslo after we checked in and strolled down to the port front and looked out over the fjord and it truly was breathtaking. I will include some pictures so you can enjoy the beauty too! Whilst away we also hired a car from Avis and travelled out to see some of the other fjords within a 20 mile radius, we came across a beach which was the weirdest thing ever on a beach with a layer of thick ice covering everything!
If there are any more details you guys would like to know then please feel free to ask! I’m conscious of not making this post too long or no one will ever read it!
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So on Thursday I Start my slimming world journey. My bmi is 29 I’m getting closer and closer to 13 stone and I need to lose atleast 2 stone to be within my healthy weight range. I’ve tried Weight watchers in the past and I found the weekly meeting a great way to keep up motivation but I found the whole points system far too much like hard work. I didn’t want to have to weigh everything out like a mad woman and I also know what I can and can’t eat. It’s going to be a big year this year and I want to get as healthy as possible! I’m moving house, getting a car hopefully a cat and a dog and maybe even start trying for a family but all of this will be much harder to cope with if when I’m lifting and carrying stuff im out of breath and I don’t want to be over the weight I am now once I’ve had a baby. Why is growing up so ridiculous. Not only do you have to get one thing right or as close as can be you have to do the same for everything! I have a lot of admiration for those people that just get on with things with little to no planning, I’m making back up plans for my back up plans. Who doesn’t have a plan z for everything?!
I’m eating healthier now anyway so its not like eating everything we have in between now and Thursday that’s just when I can get to a meeting. I am going to do a weekly blog/video 📹 about all of this and the step by step journey I’m taking. If anyone wants to do this journey with me id me more than happy! Just send me an email or message me on here!
Hope everyone has a very healthy Tuesday 🙂
Love Helen xx
I am a flake. I am here and there and every where and no where all at once. I have a very short attention span and when I love something I put my everything into it…until I get bored and then I put my heart into something else and then get bored.
Like blogging. I love it, then as soon as it becomes a hassle to do it, I stop. I do it with everything in life apart from actual people which is good. I go from buying everything to buying nothing and wanting to get out of the whole capitalism thing that plagues our every decision. To diet and lose weight to embracing my womanly curves. To wanting to change jobs to loving my job.
I’m a contradiction and a hypocritical loser. The things I genuinely do love I come back to time and time again which is a good sign that’s its not all a complete loss. I am also very pleased that my husband knows I am a flake and can talk some sense into me when I am just about to sign up to some class that I have to pay for in advance or something that requires a commitment that he knows I will never keep. I don’t do it on purpose and most of the time, at the beginning of one of my hair brained idea’s I am truly convinced that this time it will be different.
It’s a bit of a love, hate relationship I have with my flakiness as when I have found something I am truly passionate and I put all of my effort into and then I get bored, get distressed at life and then fall back In love with something else. My dad is exactly the same. The amount of diy projects he has started and given up on. The amount of collections he has started and given up on…
Life is one crazy rollercoaster thing that I still don’t quite understand my place in yet…
Anyway hope you have a great day =)
Love Mrs Flakey xxx
I am unfortunately burdened like many other people with rough dry dead skin on the bottom of my foot. I have my own little dead skin platforms that are unsightly and quite frankly a bit gross. Getting them out in public has always caused me some embarrassment but life’s just a little too short!
After scouring the Internet for what products works the best it was Groupon than saved the day with a fabulous offer on a magipedi. It was £30 reduced from £90 and now all of my foot problems were going to be a thing of the past!
I got the micopedi and began using it on my troubled areas and in a cloud of dead skin and about 40 minutes later I decided enough was enough! After hoovering up a considerable amount of sawdust my feet felt smoother, softer and much healthier. Feeling rather dusty after my skin removal I jumped in the shower and nearly broke my neck but I guess I just didn’t have as much grip as I was used to!
After a few days the skin on my feet began to string off like on the side of your finger nails when you have been chewing them. But I sanded them all off with my handy foot sander. I don’t think I was using it nearly as much as someone with the amount of deadline as I have should have been and it never really got much further down….
Foot revival part 2:
On a knifes edge; wandering around boots I came across a very strange looking razor designed for feet. Now this isn’t the type of razor that you buy to get rid of unsightly toe hairs but to actually shave the excess skin from your feet… Tasty.
I got home and wanted to get on with this interesting purchase and soaked my feet in hot/warm water with added coconut and lavender oil!
After about half an hour I got my soaking soft tootsies out of the water and began my foot shaving experiment. What happened next is pretty awesome. The skin just literally came off, it was like peeling a potato, I got loads of skin off and my feet and they started feeling really quite normal again! Once I finished with my shaven feet I sanded them once more, just to get things really smooth and moistured them well.
My feet now are alot smoother and I don’t have my little platform anymore but if I don’t regularly sand them down it soon starts to come back!
If you want nice smooth feet I would definitely give them a try but it is a lot of work. But your body is a temple and you are supposed to look after it!