These four words up until now have been my life’s mantra. I’m chilled relaxed and I go with the flow. I have said this so many times and about so many things.
But what is going with the flow.
Going with the flow is nice and it’s easy. It’s lazy. Your not making any of your own life decisions. You are passively letting your life go by, reacting to it only when it needs to be reacted to.
It’s true that sometimes things happen in your life that you are unable to control and your only option is to go with the flow. But where has going with the flow really ever gotten anyone?
Did Richard Branson simply go with the flow when his flight got cancelled? No he commanded something different from his life, chartered a plane, charged other stranded passengers airfair and got where he was going and a whole new business venture appeared from it.
If you aren’t in love with what you do but you also don’t hate it, you just coast and go with the flow… Only to find out in 5/10/15/20 years time that you could and SHOULD have been doing something more worthwhile. Something of value. Maybe not physical value, but something that brings value into YOUR life. After all your the one that is living it.
Command more value from your life. Stop simply going with the flow!
Does stuff make us happy?
Are 10 dresses hung up in the wardrobe better than just the 2 you actually wear? Bottles and bottles of moisturiser, shower gels, shampoos, conditioners and face wash, when a bar of soap Would do?
When you have a couple of hours to kill so you go shopping, feeling a bit blue? Shopping? New job? New outfit! Single? New outfits!!
What has happened to buying once and buying right?
We have become such a throw away society and it’s killing the planet!
We buy so much crap. Let alone the single use plastics we use. We buy into fast fashion, buy an outfit for when we lose weight (we never do) or in a colour we really should wear (but never do). We buy air fresheners that pollute our homes, cleaning products which poison us and eat food that are killing us.
No more!! Not in my house!
This is one of the first poems that i ever heard and i instantly fell in love.
I never saw a wild thing
sorry for itself.
a small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself
– DH Lwarence
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Being 22 weekend pregnant my husband and I decided we would take the opportunity to go on a baby-moon which is essentially a holiday whilst pregnant to just be a happy couple and have a bit of us time.
When me and Andrew first got together we went to Venice for our first holiday and it was great although we stayed in a hostel so wasn’t as romantic as it could have been so we decided to go again but this time stay in a hotel. It was much better. We stayed for 4 days 3 nights and really enjoyed it
Before we set off I made sure the travel insurance we purchased covered us should something happen involving my pregnancy and photocopied my pregnancy notes. I even bought flight socks which as I’ve never used any before I can say they are actually surprisingly comfy and my legs didn’t feel quite as “heavy”.
Whilst away I had growing pains once a day for about half an hour and Henry had a growth spurt or more accurately I did. I woke up the day after getting there and my stomach seemed to have sprung out of nowhere but apparently that’s a thing that happens…. Something else which provided entertainment is it was whilst away on this romantic getaway my breasts decided to start leaking clear fluid… Why is pregnancy so God damn sexy!
Packing was a bit hit and miss I wish I had brought lip balm and a different moisturiser for my stomach. It was that cold being January and all, I didn’t wear any of the nice clothes I packed and ended up wearing as many layers as possible and my coat the entire time!
Andrew was really patient with me which was amazing he didn’t rush me and constantly reminded me to go and pee before we left anywhere. Was always there to rub my back when Henry decided to push or pull or whatever it is he has been doing on the inside. So all in all it has been an amazing and very enjoyable trip. I just need a holiday now to recover from this holiday ha ha 😂
I have to say I have been very lucky in the fact my first trimester has come and gone with little over 3 weeks of morning sickness and I think sickness is a bit strong of a word for what I was feeling. More like morning nausea. Once I’d done some proper reading I discovered eating as soon I woke up, holding my nose going past anything strong smelling and staying away from anything savoury kept it all to a minimum. My only craving was for vimto… My food aversions however were another thing, I could no longer eat or even contemplate the following foods:
- Hot dogs
- Spaghetti Bolognese
- Fish and chips together
- Vegetables in general
I could eat everything sweet… So it was all very interesting to say the least trying to eat and although I can now eat mostly everything on this list I still struggle with Chilli and Spaghetti Bolognese, I think it’s the mince. But I’m not really sure.
I had a slight amount of lower back pain but nothing too much and ended up with a cold… Which I suffered through without any help from painkillers, although next time I’m Ill and not pregnant I’m going straight to boots for the cold and flu medicine as I’ve been taking it for granted for far far too long.
We had our 12 week scan which was on day 12 weeks +4 and turns out my little bubs was measuring exactly right, heart beat going strong, two arms, two legs I definitely couldn’t be happier. Andrew came with me and had a massive smile throughout the whole experience. I got a massive wave of emotions and burst into happy tears. Obviously I was worried about the scan and excited all at the same time but it was only once we had been given the ok I realised just how worried I had been.
I started showing around 10 weeks not enough that anyone would know looking at me but enough that myself and Andrew could tell, being around my body all the time and that.
Hey guys so this is a follow up to yesterday’s post this is the in depth and a bit more details of what we actually got up to in chilly Norway.
The day of our departure had arrived and we were getting ready to head out on the cold January morning to go on our long overdue adventure. As we live In the city centre of Manchester and typically our flights leaving from Liverpool we got on a Terravision coach service to Liverpool Airport, It was a direct bus from Shudehill coach station straight to the front of the airport. We got a really good deal it was £20 return ticket for both of us so £5 each, each way not bad, took just under an hour to get there I total! 😘
As it was all depending on traffic we made sure we got to the airport as early as possible so we had enough time to check in and have a Frankie and Benny’s breakfast before boarding our Ryanair flight to Oslo TORP Sandefjord airport. This has got to have been the bumpiest flight I have ever been on. The turbulence was incredible!
Unfortunately it was a rather dull and cloudy day getting into Oslo but there was patches of snow on the ground so we were happy enough. Getting onto the coach from Sandefjord to actual Oslo took about 2 hours as in true Ryanair style you pay to get flown no where near where you’re going, but I can’t complain as the return flights for BOTH of us was only £55 so hey what’s a 2 hour bus ride ha!
Once we got into Oslo main bus station it was a short 15 minute walk to the hotel. HTL Grenson, it is a beautifully modern building with a full glass front, facing a few fancy shops that appear to be a bit like our Debenhams. We went into the hotel and checked in with the help of the gorgeous blonde receptionist and off to our room we went. A few floors up in the lift and our room was right opposite no mazes for us! The room was really nice with a massive bed a wet room kind of shower thing which was amazing a floor to ceiling window on one wall facing the main Street!
We walked through Oslo after we checked in and strolled down to the port front and looked out over the fjord and it truly was breathtaking. I will include some pictures so you can enjoy the beauty too! Whilst away we also hired a car from Avis and travelled out to see some of the other fjords within a 20 mile radius, we came across a beach which was the weirdest thing ever on a beach with a layer of thick ice covering everything!
If there are any more details you guys would like to know then please feel free to ask! I’m conscious of not making this post too long or no one will ever read it!
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So on Thursday I Start my slimming world journey. My bmi is 29 I’m getting closer and closer to 13 stone and I need to lose atleast 2 stone to be within my healthy weight range. I’ve tried Weight watchers in the past and I found the weekly meeting a great way to keep up motivation but I found the whole points system far too much like hard work. I didn’t want to have to weigh everything out like a mad woman and I also know what I can and can’t eat. It’s going to be a big year this year and I want to get as healthy as possible! I’m moving house, getting a car hopefully a cat and a dog and maybe even start trying for a family but all of this will be much harder to cope with if when I’m lifting and carrying stuff im out of breath and I don’t want to be over the weight I am now once I’ve had a baby. Why is growing up so ridiculous. Not only do you have to get one thing right or as close as can be you have to do the same for everything! I have a lot of admiration for those people that just get on with things with little to no planning, I’m making back up plans for my back up plans. Who doesn’t have a plan z for everything?!
I’m eating healthier now anyway so its not like eating everything we have in between now and Thursday that’s just when I can get to a meeting. I am going to do a weekly blog/video 📹 about all of this and the step by step journey I’m taking. If anyone wants to do this journey with me id me more than happy! Just send me an email or message me on here!
Hope everyone has a very healthy Tuesday 🙂
Love Helen xx
So i have a story to tell and it is a little strange.
A couple of weeks ago my husband and i decided we would go meat free for a week to shake up the food we ate as we have realised we are eating far too much meat as humans and individuals.
The week went well with only one slip up involving cheese and Andrew was really looking forward to eating meat again but in a more ethical way… organic, free range meat, not every day of the week. I however have gotten rather emotional about everything. When i found out that gorgonzola had calf rennet i did a lot of Internet research about what other seemingly meat free products had a dark secret. I didnt dive straight back into meat eating and in fact it was Tuesday this week when we were out shopping and tired we decided to go to Nandos, i ate my usual plate of chicken and felt non plussed about it all.
When i got home i started doing a big morrisons shop and was checking out the organic chickens…
£6.50 each shocked at the price i looked at non organic at 2 for £5. I showed Andrew who then said… its crazy isnt it how we think £6.50 is expensive for a whole animals life….
That was it! The flood gates opened, i burst into tears and i suddenly got it.
Ive always known that we eat animals… ive known where they come from… somehow through Andrews choice of words it all became clear.
I have made a choice… i will no longer eat meat. I started this a few weeks ago just trying to make better decisions, make a difference in my own choices and i have come through the other side different. Even writing this im getting rather emotional.
Seeing my very emotional response to that organic chicken, Andrew has said he will support me in my choice not to eat meat as best as he can.
May all the chickens live long happy healthy lives!
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Much Love Helen x
I have had the Monuspa Reviving mist for a couple of months now and i absolutely love it!
I got it just before i went on holiday to Spain as the spray was really refreshing and it smells really nice. So when your all hot and bothered and might not be feeling the freshest spritz a little of this onto your face, back of neck and body and it leaves you feeling much better!
It is also great t set your make up, one spritz of this keeps your make up there all day!
The product its self i got from a beauty box subscription and just haven’t managed to tell you guys about how amazing it is! This is a full sized sample and you can pick it up for £11.95.
“The perfect pick-me-up for dull days and stressed skin, to leave you feeling calm, comforted and in control. Created using a blend of zesty essential oils. A blend of zesty essential oils from Lemon and Rosewood to Sandalwood, Petitgrain, Geranium and Clary Sage. This invigorating combination will leave skin feeling deliciously cool and refreshed whilst providing an irresistible fragrance to tantalise the senses.” – Glossybox
Here is the website so you can buy your own!
I went into lush the other day and asked one of the advisors about what would be best for dry skin. Ive tried one from Lush that had oats in it and although it did help at first by the time the next day arrived it was as dry as ever. With this information i was told that The Sacred truth was the next best for moisturising and i should give that a go. He also gave me a sample of Skin drink moisturiser to try after the mask.
The mask its self is really thick, green and slimy. I loved the smell of it tho! Its busting full of natural ingredients like lavender oil and jojobah oil smells great! When you put it on its really quite cool and refreshing on your face and you can feel the little bits of exfoliating matter throughout the mixture.
After leaving it on for the required time the mask itself didnt set as such but you could tell a difference between just putting it on and theend result. Washing it all off was quite easy and didnt cause quite as much mess as is usual.
Both mine and Andrews skin felt great afterwards really soft and my face felt slightly plumper but not in an alarming way. The moisturiser we used afterwards was also quite thick so we didnt need to use very much of it and it definitely made a difference.
This morning when i woke up my skin still feels lovely so its already better than the last one i tried!
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Much Love Helen x