Going with the flow

These four words up until now have been my life’s mantra. I’m chilled relaxed and I go with the flow. I have said this so many times and about so many things.

But what is going with the flow.

 Going with the flow is nice and it’s easy. It’s lazy. Your not making any of your own life decisions. You are passively letting your life go by, reacting to it only when it needs to be reacted to. 

It’s true that sometimes things happen in your life that you are unable to control and your only option is to go with the flow. But where has going with the flow really ever gotten anyone?

Did Richard Branson simply go with the flow when his flight got cancelled? No he commanded something different from his life, chartered a plane, charged other stranded passengers airfair and got where he was going and a whole new business venture appeared from it.

If you aren’t in love with what you do but you also don’t hate it, you just coast and go with the flow… Only to find out in 5/10/15/20 years time that you could and SHOULD have been doing something more worthwhile. Something of value. Maybe not physical value, but something that brings value into YOUR life. After all your the one that is living it. 

Command more value from your life. Stop simply going with the flow!


Labour and birth story

Friday 26th May, I went into hospital as I was having some reduced movements with my little boy. I had the same thing at 31 weeks so was expecting them to tie me to the machine wait around for about half an hour to be told everything was fine and to go home. However what actually happened is that it was a hot day and my blood pressure was up so they wanted me to stay until it came down, it didn’t. They gave me some pills and said because I was 39+4 that they would be inducing me the next day. My blood pressure went straight back up (in shock) so they decided to induce me then and there.

So after midnight i was admitted on to the ward and given the pessary to get things going and had a sweep….fun times.

At about 4am i woke up in quite a bit of pain as the pessary had actually slipped down. The midwife popped it back into place and i managed to sleep through the night. The next day i was having some contractions so i kept moving all day long. If things don’t go into full-blown labour they only check your cervix after 24 hours and i was determined not to be in any longer than i needed to be, so i was walking up and down the halls and bounced on the exercise balls just to keep things moving along. Like i said i was having mild contractions and then when my husband left me at around 9pm they stopped completely….fun. So into bed i got awaiting my examination at 2am. I set an alarm and when i woke up went off to find someone to see how well i was doing.

I was 3cm dilated and the midwife did another sweep to see if she could get me going at more speed and said as soon as someone was free and a room available I would be going down to the labour ward and have my waters broke!! Terrifying haha! She said it would probably be in the morning so i text Andrew to let him know what was happening and went back to bed to try to get some rest.

At 5am I was woken up by a health care assistant to tell me i was going down stairs now. She had to repeat herself about 3 times as i was still pretty much asleep and in shock i think!

So I gathered my stuff and went with her,  i was worried that i wouldn’t have time to ring Andrew as i wanted him there when they broke my waters but the midwife assured me she wouldnt do anything until he got there. By the time everything was set up and ready to go it was 8am there is a shift change at 8:30 so we all decided that we would wait until the new midwife was there so that i wasnt being examined and then examined again 30 minutes later.

The new midwife Rae couldn’t reach my cervix to feel how dilated i was or to break my waters, i guess for me its a little “longer” in there ha ha. She went out to find someone with longer fingers and returned with a Registrar Ken. He broke my waters in about 3 seconds flat and didn’t hurt a tiny bit. They gave me an hour to see if my contractions started naturally or id have to go on the drip as it appeared my little boy had opened his bowels inside… nice one kid! So the hour came and went and the contractions did start but not of any kind of intensity they were hoping for so i went on the drip. Now up until this point i hadn’t touched any pain relief although they did keep offering me gas and air. About an hour after the drip was put in the contractions started and BOY did THEY. My contractions were in the top of my legs, my hips felt like they were being pulled apart so i very quickly picked up the gas and air nozzle. It is a weird feeling the gas and air, a little bit like your tipsy, i’m not sure it did loads for the pain but it got me through another hour or so… then the contractions got too painful and i wanted something better… so i was given diamorphine…. i was being sick and mooing like a cow although Andrew my hubby said i sounded more like an owl hooting but despite all this i was also quite comfortable, once the contraction stops all the pain disappears… its very strange! I was in labour for about 9 hours in total. Due to the hip contractions and the drip i was strapped to a machine to monitor baby’s heart rate and couldn’t really move.

I remember getting the strangest urge to push although i felt like it was too early…. so i tried to stop myself from pushing but not being able to stop myself. For me it felt like when your retching… like your body just taking over and not being able to stop it. At this point i had been pushing for an unknown amount of time when my little ones heart rate started dipping to the point where the midwife was concerned so she buzzed for back up, as she did alarms started going off everywhere… and two of them had nothing to do with me and everything to do with another 2 women in need of assistance pretty much at the exact same time.

Time became a priority in what felt like 20 seconds the room filled with people running around and moving things and setting things up. I needed emergency assistance, the two other women were taking up the theatres so there was no where for me to go, they turned my room into an emergency theatre, i dont know if it was the panic of the situation or not but the diamorphine started to wear off. A consultant came in and was all dressed ready to intervene, i was going to have a forcept delivery. On my next push he was going to help me get my son out. The pain was incredible, the feeling strange and stomach turning but i didnt care my son needed to be born. The consultant said he needed to cut me to help get Henry out, i didnt care. On the next contraction a midwife pushed on my stomach i pushed with all my might and the consultant dragged my son out by his head.

Henry was placed on me for a few seconds but was quickly taken away and put on the resuscitator. He had a problem with his breathing and a suspected broken clavicle so was rushed down to neonatal where he would be well looked after.

Once my placenta was removed i wasn’t in any pain whats so ever, its all very strange…. but hey i guess that is mother natures reward for putting you through such an ordeal. The consultant started sowing me up and he apologised for being so rough with me but it really was a priority that my son was delivered asap, i didn’t care, i still don’t. Yea when i think back it does sort of make my skin crawl remembering the feeling of it all but it was to save my son… Id do it again tomorrow. The labour itself really wasn’t that bad and i will go into my next pregnancy with no fear of that… the drugs definitely worked! Which in itself must say a lot and give any expecting mother some hope.


I am a flake

I am a flake. I am here and there and every where and no where all at once. I have a very short attention span and when I love something I put my everything into it…until I get bored and then I put my heart into something else and then get bored.

Like blogging. I love it, then as soon as it becomes a hassle to do it, I stop. I do it with everything in life apart from actual people which is good. I go from buying everything to buying nothing and wanting to get out of the whole capitalism thing that plagues our every decision. To diet and lose weight to embracing my womanly curves. To wanting to change jobs to loving my job.

I’m a contradiction and a hypocritical loser. The things I genuinely do love I come back to time and time again which is a good sign that’s its not all a complete loss. I am also very pleased that my husband knows I am a flake and can talk some sense into me when I am just about to sign up to some class that I have to pay for in advance or something that requires a commitment that he knows I will never keep. I don’t do it on purpose and most of the time, at the beginning of one of my hair brained idea’s I am truly convinced that this time it will be different.

It’s a bit of a love, hate relationship I have with my flakiness as when I have found something I am truly passionate and I put all of my effort into and then I get bored, get distressed at life and then fall back In love with something else. My dad is exactly the same. The amount of diy projects he has started and given up on. The amount of collections he has started and given up on…

Life is one crazy rollercoaster thing that I still don’t quite understand my place in yet…

Anyway hope you have a great day =)

Love Mrs Flakey xxx



The chicken incident

Hello everyone!

So i have a story to tell and it is a little strange.

A couple of weeks ago my husband and i decided we would go meat free for a week to shake up the food we ate as we have realised we are eating far too much meat as humans and individuals.

The week went well with only one slip up involving cheese and Andrew was really looking forward to eating meat again but in a more ethical way… organic, free range meat, not every day of the week. I however have gotten rather emotional about everything. When i found out that gorgonzola had calf rennet i did a lot of Internet research about what other seemingly meat free products had a dark secret. I didnt dive straight back into meat eating and in fact it was Tuesday this week when we were out shopping and tired we decided to go to Nandos, i ate my usual plate of chicken and felt non plussed about it all.

When i got home i started doing a big morrisons shop and was checking out the organic chickens…

Β£6.50 each shocked at the price i looked at non organic at 2 for Β£5. I showed Andrew who then said… its crazy isnt it how we think Β£6.50 is expensive for a whole animals life….

That was it! The flood gates opened, i burst into tears and  i suddenly got it.

Ive always known that we eat animals… ive known where they come from… somehow through Andrews choice of words it all became clear.

I have made a choice… i will no longer eat meat. I started this a few weeks ago just trying to make better decisions, make a difference in my own choices and i have come through the other side different. Even writing this im getting rather emotional.

Seeing my very emotional response to that organic chicken, Andrew has said he will support me in my choice not to eat meat as best as he can.

May all the chickens live long happy healthy lives!


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Much Love Helen x


Reviving review


I have had the Monuspa Reviving mist for a couple of months now and i absolutely love it!

I got it just before i went on holiday to Spain as the spray was really refreshing and it smells really nice. So when your all hot and bothered and might not be feeling the freshest spritz a little of this onto your face, back of neck and body and it leaves you feeling much better!

It is also great t set your make up, one spritz of this keeps your make up there all day!

The product its self i got from a beauty box subscription and just haven’t managed to tell you guys about how amazing it is! This is a full sized sample and you can pick it up for Β£11.95.

“The perfect pick-me-up for dull days and stressed skin, to leave you feeling calm, comforted and in control. Created using a blend of zesty essential oils. A blend of zesty essential oils from Lemon and Rosewood to Sandalwood, Petitgrain, Geranium and Clary Sage. This invigorating combination will leave skin feeling deliciously cool and refreshed whilst providing an irresistible fragrance to tantalise the senses.” – Glossybox

Here is the website so you can buy your own!


The sacred truth


I went into lush the other day and asked one of the advisors about what would be best for dry skin. Ive tried one from Lush that had oats in it and although it did help at first by the time the next day arrived it was as dry as ever. With this information i was told that The Sacred truth was the next best for moisturising and i should give that a go. He also gave me a sample of Skin drink moisturiser to try after the mask.


The mask its self is really thick, green and slimy. I loved the smell of it tho! Its busting full of natural ingredients like lavender oil and jojobah oil smells great! When you put it on its really quite cool and refreshing on your face and you can feel the little bits of exfoliating matter throughout the mixture.


After leaving it on for the required time the mask itself didnt set as such but you could tell a difference between just putting it on and theend result. Washing it all off was quite easy and didnt cause quite as much mess as is usual.

Both mine and Andrews skin felt great afterwards really soft and my face felt slightly plumper but not in an alarming way. The moisturiser we used afterwards was also quite thick so we didnt need to use very much of it and it definitely made a difference.
This morning when i woke up my skin still feels lovely so its already better than the last one i tried!

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Much Love Helen x


Ultimate Review


Ultimate blends

The strength restorer serum πŸ™‚

My thoughts about this product are a little conflicted, when buying this i also bought the matching Shampoo and Conditioner which have long been used and this has stuck around quite a bit longer!

My hair has gone through all sorts i have tortured it and taken it to the brink! Ive bleached it, dyed it, frazzled it and then finally i cut it all to about 2 inches long and as over the last 2 years it’s grown I’ve been a lot more loving.

I hardly ever even blow dry it these days, so when i do dry and straighten my hair i have to admit its in pretty good condition. Ive been really lucky after cutting it short that its grown back with a soft curl to it. I go to bed with it wet and its all pretty much styled by my pillow. Which is handy as I’m lazy… i live my bed… and this just adds to my bed time appreciation although it doesnt always work out so well!.

Anyway back to my product review!
It smells great! I would love for my hair to hold that scent all of the time! As an oil it does make my hair really shiny although i have to wash it much sooner than if i dont use it, but i guess that would be expected. I just dont feel that it makes any difference. I dont know if my hair was in bad condition that would change things tho, i was expecting my hair to feel softer and slicker but nothing. I think when i bought this from boots it was on special offer but i still wouldn’t buy it again. Im struggling to use this as it is to be honest!

If any one has used this and has found it works well for them let me know!

I guess this one just isnt for me!

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Much Love Helen x


Sass ingrown hair stopper!


Sass intimate perfect skin concentrate, prevents in grown hairs.

No without things getting too detailed i like to make sure that i’m well groomed in certain area’s *cough cough* and an issue i get from this is in grown hairs!

They hurt, they itch, they are ugly…. i may as well have not bothered!

I’ve tried exfoliating before and after shaving and i don’t get anything different! So when i saw this in boots i didn’t really have anything to loose.

The cream its self is quite sticky and takes a little while to dry, i wouldn’t be putting this on my skin before goimf out anywhere as it took ages to dry and i was walking around my apartment starkers for about 30 mins! Good job i’m on the top floor! There is little to no scent which is good for my intimate area’s!

It has helped though but i don’t think i’m going to buy it again. I just don’t have the time to not wear pants everynight for 40 minutes!

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Much Love Helen x


Juice (r)

So i my little brother got himself a juicer and he didnt bother with it after the first day. So i have aquired it! Ive gone online and got loads and loads of recipes and i just thought id share my first simple home made juice experience…

2 apples
6 carrots
1/2 inch of peeled ginger

Thats it..Β  tastes mighty good tho i have to admit!

My only question is…

All the left over skin/pulp… what can i do with it? I dont really want to throw it away if i can help it?!

Suggestions would be mighty good right now πŸ™‚

Thanks iΒ  advance πŸ™‚


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Much Love Helen x


Trying to make a difference






This is the food i eat on a weekly basis. Now im fully aware of the fact each one of these meals is primarily full of meat. Chicken, fish, beef, lamb i eat every thing. Now after putting in some serious thought, i want to change. I read somewhere a horrible statistic about how many animals each person on earth consumes on average throughout their lifetime. It is truely mind blowing. And i’m ashamed. I do feel that if the animal is well looked after and doesnt suffer then there is a little less concern. However both my husband and I have pledged to eat less meat. There is no need to have meat in every meal, so to kick start things as of Monday 27th we are going meat free for a whole week. I know to some this may seem like a tiny obstacle and that it wont make much of a difference but we are trying to shift the way we look at our food and how it gets to our plate. We have agreed to do atleast a week but who knows maybe it will go on for longer.

Im just trying to make a difference in my own life.

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Much Love Helen x