Will we ever be satisfied. We are genetically engineered to hoard to save things in good times so we are prepared in bad times, but now, now that there is an abundance of stuff. Surely we don’t need to hoard.
Fortunately for many we can simply go out and get the stuff we need.
We are reluctant to give the stuff we don’t need to the needy “just in case.” And those expensive items we got ourselves and don’t use but feel too guilty to sell for a loss or to donate.
If you don’t need it on a daily or even weekly basis chances are you could get along just fine with out it!
Rid your home of the crap that we don’t need, that we don’t use and the stuff that doesn’t bring us joy.
These four words up until now have been my life’s mantra. I’m chilled relaxed and I go with the flow. I have said this so many times and about so many things.
But what is going with the flow.
Going with the flow is nice and it’s easy. It’s lazy. Your not making any of your own life decisions. You are passively letting your life go by, reacting to it only when it needs to be reacted to.
It’s true that sometimes things happen in your life that you are unable to control and your only option is to go with the flow. But where has going with the flow really ever gotten anyone?
Did Richard Branson simply go with the flow when his flight got cancelled? No he commanded something different from his life, chartered a plane, charged other stranded passengers airfair and got where he was going and a whole new business venture appeared from it.
If you aren’t in love with what you do but you also don’t hate it, you just coast and go with the flow… Only to find out in 5/10/15/20 years time that you could and SHOULD have been doing something more worthwhile. Something of value. Maybe not physical value, but something that brings value into YOUR life. After all your the one that is living it.
Command more value from your life. Stop simply going with the flow!
Does stuff make us happy?
Are 10 dresses hung up in the wardrobe better than just the 2 you actually wear? Bottles and bottles of moisturiser, shower gels, shampoos, conditioners and face wash, when a bar of soap Would do?
When you have a couple of hours to kill so you go shopping, feeling a bit blue? Shopping? New job? New outfit! Single? New outfits!!
What has happened to buying once and buying right?
We have become such a throw away society and it’s killing the planet!
We buy so much crap. Let alone the single use plastics we use. We buy into fast fashion, buy an outfit for when we lose weight (we never do) or in a colour we really should wear (but never do). We buy air fresheners that pollute our homes, cleaning products which poison us and eat food that are killing us.
No more!! Not in my house!
This is one of the first poems that i ever heard and i instantly fell in love.
I never saw a wild thing
sorry for itself.
a small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself
– DH Lwarence
Photo credit: starmerallengentleman instagram
Being 22 weekend pregnant my husband and I decided we would take the opportunity to go on a baby-moon which is essentially a holiday whilst pregnant to just be a happy couple and have a bit of us time.
When me and Andrew first got together we went to Venice for our first holiday and it was great although we stayed in a hostel so wasn’t as romantic as it could have been so we decided to go again but this time stay in a hotel. It was much better. We stayed for 4 days 3 nights and really enjoyed it
Before we set off I made sure the travel insurance we purchased covered us should something happen involving my pregnancy and photocopied my pregnancy notes. I even bought flight socks which as I’ve never used any before I can say they are actually surprisingly comfy and my legs didn’t feel quite as “heavy”.
Whilst away I had growing pains once a day for about half an hour and Henry had a growth spurt or more accurately I did. I woke up the day after getting there and my stomach seemed to have sprung out of nowhere but apparently that’s a thing that happens…. Something else which provided entertainment is it was whilst away on this romantic getaway my breasts decided to start leaking clear fluid… Why is pregnancy so God damn sexy!
Packing was a bit hit and miss I wish I had brought lip balm and a different moisturiser for my stomach. It was that cold being January and all, I didn’t wear any of the nice clothes I packed and ended up wearing as many layers as possible and my coat the entire time!
Andrew was really patient with me which was amazing he didn’t rush me and constantly reminded me to go and pee before we left anywhere. Was always there to rub my back when Henry decided to push or pull or whatever it is he has been doing on the inside. So all in all it has been an amazing and very enjoyable trip. I just need a holiday now to recover from this holiday ha ha 😂
At the end of January I decided that I would be a very nice and generous wife and booked myself and Andrew a trip to Norway!
We haven’t been away together since our honeymoon 2 years ago so it was definitely needed. Andrew is rather sensible when it comes to money were I’m a little devil may care. As long as I’ve got enough to have a roof over my head and food I don’t mind not having spare cash in the bank, so I had to be a little bit sneaky. We have a joint bank account that both our wages go into so I couldn’t very well start booking flights and hotels and expect Andrew not to notice! Soooo I withdrew bits and pieces of money every day for my “lunch” at work and took a packed lunch. The money Id withdrawn i put into a spare account I have from my student days and he was non the wiser!
Deciding where to go.. On my own jeez I was nervous, Spain, Venice, Iceland… I wanted a memorable trip that wouldn’t cost the earth 🌍
We have been to Venice previously so if we could go somewhat new that would be better and I felt going somewhere cooler would be different, I’d seen loads of holidays on groupon and Wowcher so thought I’d look at Iceland. Unfortunately it was a little more than I wanted to pay so scowering the Internet I found VERY cheap flights to Oslo, another search later I found cheap accommodation in a swanky hotel in the centre of Oslo perfect!
Eek one problem…
It meant Andrew would need the Friday off, how was I going to explain that?! Hmmm well after some quick thinking I came up with a plan! Andrews boss was on Facebook so I asked her directly if she would help me with my plan and she did! She even threw in some of her walking boots for me which I hadn’t even thought about!
Once everything was booked and I’d sorted out a hire car for us during our stay, I broke the news!!
Who wouldn’t love a surprise trip away?? Everything was booked and all he had to worry about was getting some walking boots to fit his size 12 feet!
I will write a more in depth post about Oslo itself tomorrow so please come back a read =)
Here are some of the pictures we took of our trip and it really was amazing! The fjords are beautiful and I couldn’t have asked for a better trip!
If you haven’t been to Oslo and it’s somewhere you would like to go one bit of advice… Be prepared to buy food from the supermarket as it is massively expensive, we had a look at a few menu’s outside restaurants and meals were easily £20-£30 for basic £10 dishes here in the UK.
I am a flake. I am here and there and every where and no where all at once. I have a very short attention span and when I love something I put my everything into it…until I get bored and then I put my heart into something else and then get bored.
Like blogging. I love it, then as soon as it becomes a hassle to do it, I stop. I do it with everything in life apart from actual people which is good. I go from buying everything to buying nothing and wanting to get out of the whole capitalism thing that plagues our every decision. To diet and lose weight to embracing my womanly curves. To wanting to change jobs to loving my job.
I’m a contradiction and a hypocritical loser. The things I genuinely do love I come back to time and time again which is a good sign that’s its not all a complete loss. I am also very pleased that my husband knows I am a flake and can talk some sense into me when I am just about to sign up to some class that I have to pay for in advance or something that requires a commitment that he knows I will never keep. I don’t do it on purpose and most of the time, at the beginning of one of my hair brained idea’s I am truly convinced that this time it will be different.
It’s a bit of a love, hate relationship I have with my flakiness as when I have found something I am truly passionate and I put all of my effort into and then I get bored, get distressed at life and then fall back In love with something else. My dad is exactly the same. The amount of diy projects he has started and given up on. The amount of collections he has started and given up on…
Life is one crazy rollercoaster thing that I still don’t quite understand my place in yet…
Anyway hope you have a great day =)
Love Mrs Flakey xxx
So i have a story to tell and it is a little strange.
A couple of weeks ago my husband and i decided we would go meat free for a week to shake up the food we ate as we have realised we are eating far too much meat as humans and individuals.
The week went well with only one slip up involving cheese and Andrew was really looking forward to eating meat again but in a more ethical way… organic, free range meat, not every day of the week. I however have gotten rather emotional about everything. When i found out that gorgonzola had calf rennet i did a lot of Internet research about what other seemingly meat free products had a dark secret. I didnt dive straight back into meat eating and in fact it was Tuesday this week when we were out shopping and tired we decided to go to Nandos, i ate my usual plate of chicken and felt non plussed about it all.
When i got home i started doing a big morrisons shop and was checking out the organic chickens…
£6.50 each shocked at the price i looked at non organic at 2 for £5. I showed Andrew who then said… its crazy isnt it how we think £6.50 is expensive for a whole animals life….
That was it! The flood gates opened, i burst into tears and i suddenly got it.
Ive always known that we eat animals… ive known where they come from… somehow through Andrews choice of words it all became clear.
I have made a choice… i will no longer eat meat. I started this a few weeks ago just trying to make better decisions, make a difference in my own choices and i have come through the other side different. Even writing this im getting rather emotional.
Seeing my very emotional response to that organic chicken, Andrew has said he will support me in my choice not to eat meat as best as he can.
May all the chickens live long happy healthy lives!
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Much Love Helen x
I have had the Monuspa Reviving mist for a couple of months now and i absolutely love it!
I got it just before i went on holiday to Spain as the spray was really refreshing and it smells really nice. So when your all hot and bothered and might not be feeling the freshest spritz a little of this onto your face, back of neck and body and it leaves you feeling much better!
It is also great t set your make up, one spritz of this keeps your make up there all day!
The product its self i got from a beauty box subscription and just haven’t managed to tell you guys about how amazing it is! This is a full sized sample and you can pick it up for £11.95.
“The perfect pick-me-up for dull days and stressed skin, to leave you feeling calm, comforted and in control. Created using a blend of zesty essential oils. A blend of zesty essential oils from Lemon and Rosewood to Sandalwood, Petitgrain, Geranium and Clary Sage. This invigorating combination will leave skin feeling deliciously cool and refreshed whilst providing an irresistible fragrance to tantalise the senses.” – Glossybox
Here is the website so you can buy your own!
To celebrate being a vegetarian for a whole week, myself, Andrew and my mother went out for a meal!
Andrew has decided that he is going to start eating meat again and but that he is going to make a real effort buying organic meat when possible.
I however have decided to carry on not eating meat. I don’t know how long this will go on for but I’m not in any rush to start again.
The only part I’ve found difficult is lack of choice in the town i work in. There is a gregs which alternative’s are egg or cheese… i know totally spoilt or Marks and Spencers and spend half my wage in there!
Anyway back onto topic! Superstore! I had the Superstore salad! It was the only thing vegetarian on the menu! It was pretty amazing tho! Andrew and my mum had the beef burger! It was huge and neither of them enjoyed it very much! Ha vegetables win!!
The menu itself is overly confusing. Its a mix between a tapas bar and a regular restaurant. Although there isn’t much choice, they also have a specials board but that was over by the time we got there about 6.30pm. It is rather expensive for what it is too.
Andrew and i have been before on a sunday and had a Roast dinner and that was much much better.
It was rather busy even tho it was a Thursday night and service was slow. The waiter did warn us about this but we decided to wait anyway, although Andrew and my wish they hadn’t bothered.
I guess we may just have had a bad experience or maybe they would have been better getting the vegetarian option like me! As i enjoyed mine!
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Much Love Helen x