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Will we ever be satisfied. We are genetically engineered to hoard to save things in good times so we are prepared in bad times, but now, now that there is an abundance of stuff. Surely we don’t need to hoard.

 Fortunately for many we can simply go out and get the stuff we need. 

We are reluctant to give the stuff we don’t need to the needy “just in case.” And those expensive items we got ourselves and don’t use but feel too guilty to sell for a loss or to donate.

If you don’t need it on a daily or even weekly basis chances are you could get along just fine with out it!

Rid your home of the crap that we don’t need, that we don’t use and the stuff that doesn’t bring us joy.

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Going with the flow

These four words up until now have been my life’s mantra. I’m chilled relaxed and I go with the flow. I have said this so many times and about so many things.

But what is going with the flow.

 Going with the flow is nice and it’s easy. It’s lazy. Your not making any of your own life decisions. You are passively letting your life go by, reacting to it only when it needs to be reacted to. 

It’s true that sometimes things happen in your life that you are unable to control and your only option is to go with the flow. But where has going with the flow really ever gotten anyone?

Did Richard Branson simply go with the flow when his flight got cancelled? No he commanded something different from his life, chartered a plane, charged other stranded passengers airfair and got where he was going and a whole new business venture appeared from it.

If you aren’t in love with what you do but you also don’t hate it, you just coast and go with the flow… Only to find out in 5/10/15/20 years time that you could and SHOULD have been doing something more worthwhile. Something of value. Maybe not physical value, but something that brings value into YOUR life. After all your the one that is living it. 

Command more value from your life. Stop simply going with the flow!

The chateau part two

 

Bonjour, so far our time at the chateaux has been amazing. The work is light, easy and enjoyable so as far as that is concerned its a breeze.

The work we do have to do is just basic house maintence really, we wash up, hoover up and help in the garden, of course we do slightly more than that but i shant bore you with details. The house is a beautiful example of french life and put that along side Fred and Isabelle and you have a winning combination.

The food is amazing and ive never had any of it before, we have  had local delicacies which we have taken pictures of to show you. Crepes with a filling of seafood, pear tarts and more stuff that i wouldnt even be able to describe you as i havent got a clue what it was….it was however fricken tasty!

 

When we arrived at Amiens to cycle the 33km to Courcelles-sous-Thoix i started to get very nervous, with it being our very first helpx experience we really did not know what to expect but thank god we did try out helpx as its all been such an amazing experience, fred and Isabelle are the kindest people that you could ever hope to meet as soon as we arrived we were welcomed with open arms and were immediatley put at ease. Isabelle doesnt really speak much English so certain tasks she would have to demonstrate what she wanted us to do, the way she likes things to be done, like peeling mushrooms. I can honestly say i have never peeled a mushroom before but oh well it was an experience. On one of the more boring tasks i had to do, which was ironing (it has to be done everywhere i guess) i was listening to some music on my phone as i was alone and Isabelle came in to clean the mirrors and out of no where she started singing the song i had on, all the words in English, i couldnt believe it, was the funniest moment at the chateaux we for me anyway, i think Andrews favourate moment was when we had just arrived and he was helping fred put the chickens back in the coop to which andrew asked how many chickens there where and Fred just said i dont care, maybe eight, eight i think, doesnt sound as funny as it was but that is just Fred is…no f**ks given. They have to get on and do their everyday tasks and they just dont sweat the little things. The french way-Its almost good.

I feel that England could benefit from this philosopy… take some down time and as long as its almost there your on the right track and the little things arnt worth bothering about =D

Anyway our stay at the Chateaux went by so quickly and i am very thankful for their hospitality and their patience with our lack of french.

 

Adding the photos to the blog page isnt a strong suit of mine so i apologise for its terrible layout but atleast you get to see and be jealous of where we stayed!

Original post: https://starmerallen.wordpress.com/2013/05/17/the-chateau-part-two/

Guilt

Sitting down feeling terrified

I have nothing but joy ahead

8 weeks until my son arrives, with it comes a year from work

ive never not worked

what is going to happen?

will my brain come with me?

I’m scared of becoming a mindless creature of habit.

I feel guilt as the worry and anxiety emerges

I should be ecstatic right now shouldnt i?

My own poetry reviews

wpid-wp-1447377915446.jpgI have been writing poetry for some time now and it’s something I love doing.

Although I have been doing it for years this is the first time I’ve put it out there online.

I have come to the conclusion I cannot hope to get better without fair and just reviews.

If you read my poetry, first of all thank you. I hope you enjoyed it, but also please feel free to tell me why you did or didn’t like it. Only then can I hope to improve.

Thank you very much in advance.

Hjsa

Poetry – Pain

Pain is a funny thing that everyone encounters

Emotional

Physical

Both hard to deal with and yet both completely different.

The gauze that hangs over everything. The bleakness…..grey, damp, cold, lonely.

When lulled into a false sense of security, pain creeps up and stabs you in the heart and stomach slowly pulling you apart.

You can cry until there are no more tears, fall asleep and find courage in the blankness of sleep, ready to go through it all again tomorrow.

The wort part isn’t the excruciating pulling its the nothingness, the numbness, no feeling.

The worst pain is no pain at all

HJSA

Photo credit: starmerallengentleman instagram

 

 

Pregnancy beauty both good and bad!

Dry skin: I suffer from psoriasis on my hands, feet and scalp. Whenever I’m particularly stressed out the stuff on my scalp comes down slightly and goes onto my forehead but never further down than my eyebrows. Luckily I have a fringe so if it gets bad I just wear my fringe down and it’s hidden… Sorted. Being pregnant has had a very strange effect on my skin as the psoriasis I have on my hands and feet has completely cleared up and the stuff which is only very occasionally on my forehead was taking centre stage. I was caught in a tight place… The more stuff I put on my skin to help with the skin condition the worse it seemed to get, which is pretty standard really but still annoying as you can imagine. Once I got into the second half of the second trimester it seemed to clear up so fingers crossed it will stay away for a while.

Hair: My hair feels amazing! This is definitely a great side effect of pregnancy it’s growing like crazy and feels really thick (although I know it will all come out once baby is here). I cant put conditioner on it or it will get greasy in what feels like 2 seconds flat but oh well not exactly a bad thing! Will save me loads of money between now and the little critters arrival!

Nails: Also growing like crazy although they do seem a little brittle but that could be my imagination. With work all day I really am surprised that they last at all!

Bath bombs: Unfortunately I have had to put my bath bomb obsession to bed, at least until May. They have caused a brief encounter with a PH Imbalance that I sure as hell don’t want a repeat of! The doctor said now I’m pregnant I am more likely to get this sort of thing and if I’ve one once I’ll probably get another! 😱

Tummy: On my expanding stomach I have been applying The body shops Coconut body butter, Palmer’s cocoa butter and boots mummy oil spray for stretch marks. I love the smell and consistency of the body butter it’s definitely the one I have been applying the most, I find the cocoa butter too sweet smelling and the oil spray feels disgusting on my skin… 

TTC

I’ve been broody for the last 2 years. But life has been in the way, being sensible gets me down sometimes and luckily I have a very sensible husband who despite my constant cooing over babies and children said over and over again we weren’t quite ready yet, we didn’t have any savings, we lived in a one bedroom apartment in the middle of Manchester, I had just changed jobs, not the ideal time to bring life into the world if you have full control of the situation and I knew he was right so we waited. When our tenancy agreement was coming to an end we knew it was time to move in to a house. Not just to start a family but we had gotten sick of city living and wanted something a bit more in the countryside.

My husband and I started trying to conceive a month after we moved into our beautiful house back in August. We finally had the perfect house in the perfect area and everything just felt right.

We had a house warming party and it was going to be the last time I drank, trying to get pregnant and then hopefully getting pregnant is most definitely a good time to not drink! 

My last cycle started on the 22nd of August 2016. Previous to this I had already started take prenatal vitamins every evening and making sure my diet was “fairly” healthy. I had pretty much read everything I could possibly read on how to get pregnant, when the best time was and the science of it.

I bought ovulation kits and made sure we did the deed…everyday we were supposed to. A few weeks later I started having a few symptoms, my boobs hurt and I had back ache which I have never had before and after a quick Google, turned out to be a pregnancy symptom.. So I did a pregnancy test a full 2 weeks before aunt flo was even due, a negative result was all that could be expected even if I was pregnant with triplets it would still turn up negative. Slightly disappointed but logic kicking in I didn’t stress out too much.

I bought the early result pregnancy test from Tesco that say they can show a positive result as early as 7 days before AF was due and I waited until it was 3 days away. It was about 11pm and I just couldn’t wait… I nervously fumbled with the packaging and went into the bathroom. I set a timer on my phone and just sat on the toilet and waited. I couldn’t decide if there was the faintest pink line in that box or if my eyes were just playing tricks on me… I had to hold it in the light and at an angle…  Hmmm i went into the bedroom and show Andrew my hubby the test. He could also just about see it. 

Google: Pregnancy tests are designed to detect hCG in your wee – because hCG is an early marker of pregnancy. … So, a very faint line nearly always means you’re just a few days pregnant.

I know it’s stupid but I was very very excited… Andrew was trying to keep me level headed after all there is many things that could go wrong. It might be wrong… Wishful thinking, chemical pregnancy, miscarriage the list is what feels endless about what could possibly go wrong. I tried to not get my hopes up. 

The next day I went to work and was sent off to go grab some bits from Tesco. I didn’t need anything from the toiletries Isle but somehow found myself there looking at clearblue tests, early pregnancy detection stated on the front. At £20 for two I put them in my basket and paid for everything. I didn’t even manage to get out of Tesco, I went straight to the loo and did another test. I washed my hands put the test in my bag and walked back to work. Luckily for me I have a very close relationship to everyone I work with so they all knew we were trying to get pregnant so I dug out the test once I’d got to work and again another really faint line. I asked everyone around if they too could see what I could see… I was pregnant. I sent a picture to Andrew he could also see it.

Nervously we waited a week and no period came, I did another clearblue test this one was the digital test with just pregnant and not pregnant no lines to decipher just yes or no. I waited until we were both home did the the test: Pregnant 1-2 weeks, in pregnancy land that actually makes me 4 weeks pregnant. We were over the moon and felt so blessed to get pregnant straight away. Against what many people may think we told close friends and family straight away but kept it quiet to the general public. Everyone was made up told me to relax and enjoy it. 

One thing I am sure everyone has gone through pregnancy will understand is that you can’t relax especially in those first 3 months… Worry is your new best friend!

I know that for many people their journey to pregnancy and children is completely different, I can’t imagine what it would be like to see a negative test over and over. We have been truly blessed and humbled by our experience so far. I can only hope all those people trying out there get their very own positive test very soon.
Hopefully you enjoyed this post there will be follow up stories. About pregnancy and life.

Oslo ❤

Hey guys so this is a follow up to yesterday’s post this is the in depth and a bit more details of what we actually got up to in chilly Norway.

The day of our departure had arrived and we were getting ready to head out on the cold January morning to go on our long overdue adventure. As we live In the city centre of Manchester and typically our flights leaving from Liverpool we got on a Terravision coach service to Liverpool Airport, It was a direct bus from Shudehill coach station straight to the front of the airport. We got a really good deal it was £20 return ticket for both of us so £5 each, each way not bad, took just under an hour to get there I total! 😘

As it was all depending on traffic we made sure we got to the airport as early as possible so we had enough time to check in and have a Frankie and Benny’s breakfast before boarding our Ryanair flight to Oslo TORP Sandefjord airport. This has got to have been the bumpiest flight I have ever been on. The turbulence was incredible!
Unfortunately it was a rather dull and cloudy day getting into Oslo but there was patches of snow on the ground so we were happy enough. Getting onto the coach from Sandefjord to actual Oslo took about 2 hours as in true Ryanair style you pay to get flown no where near where you’re going, but I can’t complain as the return flights for BOTH of us was only £55 so hey what’s a 2 hour bus ride ha!

Once we got into Oslo main bus station it was a short 15 minute walk to the hotel. HTL Grenson, it is a beautifully modern building with a full glass front, facing a few fancy shops that appear to be a bit like our Debenhams. We went into the hotel and checked in with the help of the gorgeous blonde receptionist and off to our room we went. A few floors up in the lift and our room was right opposite no mazes for us! The room was really nice with a massive bed a wet room kind of shower thing which was amazing a floor to ceiling window on one wall facing the main Street!

We walked through Oslo after we checked in and strolled down to the port front and looked out over the fjord and it truly was breathtaking. I will include some pictures so you can enjoy the beauty too! Whilst away we also hired a car from Avis and travelled out to see some of the other fjords within a 20 mile radius, we came across a beach which was the weirdest thing ever on a beach with a layer of thick ice covering everything!

If there are any more details you guys would like to know then please feel free to ask! I’m conscious of not making this post too long or no one will ever read it!

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Thanks for reading!

Helen xx

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